Everybody is Loved

Over the weekend..

My lovely friends from Portugal finally returned back to Singapore after their 6 months backpacking trip. I was beyond excited to hangout with the whole gang again, the last time I met them was October last year. It may not seem like too long ago, but in these 6 months, I was feeling completely delusional about my life.

So anyway, meet ups with them are always fun, lots of interesting conversations, stories about travels, food and wine, then a little dancing. The kind of hangout where you wish the night never ends. Everyone just wants to chill till we fall asleep, time does not exist when you with friends. Usually the conversations we have, can get struck in my head, whether its good or bad . I take it in as a positive note and a lesson in life. By understanding from their perspective as an Expat living in Singapore, discussions about language, lifestyle, food, drinks, housing, government, human thinking, the overall quest on what is life.

A South American girl and I were chatting about how the typical Chinese girls here like to show off that they have branded bags, shoes, cars, sometimes even kids. And that some Asian girls want to get married to a foreigner, as they see them as a wealthy person who is able to provide. And because of that the white man treat girls here as an object, without respect. Part of me was thinking, yes some Asian here does act a certain way, but don't every country sort of have issues like that. For example, in Dubai the wealthy has a cheetah as a pet, shows it off on social media, some countries too have men treating women badly, some cases of both women and young boys are abused and force to do bad things.. etc.

I slowly digressed, to summarize that the world is messed up, the end.

We continued the conversation about why people are rushing to get married here, to be married before their thirties to have a house and have kids. Are they really happy? Now this I completely agree with, as I have a lot of friends around me getting married, having kids, waiting for a flat. When I am still daydreaming about living an Off the Grid lifestyle with a farm and fruit trees. I mean they seem really happy and that's great, the meaning of happiness varies from different people . Then comes the question, does Earth really need more humans.. What is love?

My eyes brighten up as she continues questioning life.

These are the sort questions that makes me ponder for days, months, forget about it and question myself again when something comes to mind. I was lost on the question 'what is love.' My brain was too emotionally worn out lately to wonder into this topic. We did both agree that for sure, love is needed to start a family. But what if love is never found, she mentioned to me, as she was older than me. What if love is found only when I am 50 years old, I might not have kids then. Which is very true, like a few inspirational TED talks I have listened to, people getting divorce after 20 years of marriage, divorced 3 times, or even separate after just 1 year with kids or not. Same gender marriage, transgender.. etc.

To sum up our conversation, we both agree on living life loving yourself, do what makes you happy, do good.

Don't dwell yourself in people's judgements. This was one of the highlights of the night, besides us sharing our poor feet massage knowledge, explanations on boxing, Muay Thai, Jiu Jitsu and MMA. Talking about wine and gin, eating steak with flour from Brazil, wine from Italy. Today, I have refueled my soul to know that I am not alone, everyone share similar struggles, we are humans beings after all. Not forgetting, the rest of the friends I have met, who are no longer living in Singapore, you did came across our minds, and that we too miss all of you very much. Bon Voyage to my dear friends,

We will definitely meet again someday and make more beautiful memories together :) Xoxoxo

Denise. J