Keep Myself Accompany

Hi everyone! You might want to grab yourself a Hot cup of Tea or Cocoa before diving into this long post.

After I wrote my third post on Life & Relationship Advice, I have been wanting to elaborate on a book and links I have shared previously. I have always thought that this isn't important enough to share, until I came across a few videos of people explaining how they felt about themselves in different situations. So I thought it would be interesting for me to write about it.

To start, most of the time I am an emotional, hopelessly romantic, old fashioned kind of person, sometimes sensitive, but over the years, my sensitively senses has shut itself down from working in the F&B industry, if you get what I mean, you can't please everyone. Everyone has their own characteristics, and when I see it, I'll be like ah okay, I guess we have to try another way. The more personalities I come across, the more I learn to understand and adapt with people.

For example, from the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carngie." He teaches us how, to listen, to ask questions, remember people's names, how to phrase your questions, if you are wrong admit it.. etc. The small things does matter in every aspect our lives.

There are two big human struggles in life which is wanting the sense of Belonging and Happiness. Although people around me may seem contented, some may be, some may not be, which ever the case is, human will forever question the meaning of life. This never ending searching has got me listening, reading to many self-help books about people's perspective and experiences in life. Then I found a pattern.

Like a quote I came across, “You only are free when you realize you belong no place — you belong every place — no place at all.”― Maya Angelou. I see this as, The world, This Planet as a home, you may not feel a sense of belonging unless you care, share and accept what life has installed for you, to be grateful instead fighting against all that you are given. Whether you are Human, Animal or Nature, we coexist in this one Eco System.

Like in this presentation by Tracy McMillan from TED Talk "The Person you really need to Marry" has explained a few situations I have felt. She mentioned,

"That you commit to yourself, then you build a relationship with yourself until you realized you are whole right now, that no man, no house, no circumstance that is going to happen to you to make you more whole."

This lingered in my mind for a week, I am not sure how my emotions can handle this idea, but then again my emotions can be everywhere at times.

"To love yourself, the way you want someone else to love you."

Which I understood better, that you are the only person who knows how to treat yourself and that relying on people would end up making you feel dishearten.

"I had always been going through life with this sense of lack. I felt like I was kind of half a person, and that I was missing something. I went into my relationships hoping to solve this feeling that I had my entire life: that I wasn’t whole unless someone loved me."

I guess Humans are made to think this way, from how society has brought us up. Example only alcohol can be consume when you are 18 Years old, that 65 Years old is your retiring age. I felt that whether you are in a relationship or not, at some point in life you would feel like something is missing.

So from all the research and references I have done, I have learned to handle my emotions and to love myself a whole new way, that caring and sharing with others does in fact makes me feel happier. It's not that I have been a mean person but I do believe in what goes around comes back around.

Thank you for reading, I hope this somehow help you from which ever level of life you are at :D

Peace Love,

Denise. J

(side track) Here's my own Recipe for my Cup of Hot Almond Milk Cocoa! Recently I have been obsessed with having a cup of Hot Cocoa Almond Milk after dinner. It makes me feels relax a couple of hours before heading to bed for a good nights sleep. Usually I would have it while reading or listening to research materials or my posts. Watching stand up comedy is perfect too.

Hot Cocoa Recipe

1 thumb size Dark Chocolate

2 Table Spoons of Cocoa Powder

1/2 Tea Spoon of Cinnamon Powder

1 Tea Spoon of Maple Syrup or Honey

(Blend them well in Hot Water then fill up the rest of your cup with room temperature Almond Milk.)

Besides me just enjoying Hot Cocoa, I have a few research references here.

If you are interested in the benefits of Cocoa,

https://www.beautyandtips.com/healthy-eating/10-fabulous-health-benefits-of-cocoa-powder/

https://www.organicfacts.net/health-benefits/other/health-benefits-of-cocoa.html

https://www.metaboliceffect.com/cocoa/

https://www.mnn.com/food/beverages/stories/7-health-benefits-of-drinking-hot-cocoa